Get Past Your Sad: A Pep Talk.

Once upon a time, I was sad.

I was scared, sad, and didn't know what to do about it.

Instead of looking within, I placed the blame on others.

I'm not happy at my job? It's my co-workers' fault.

I have no self-esteem? It's cause no one tells me I'm pretty.

I didn't get a good grade on that paper? That teacher is unfair.

This went on.

And on.

And on.

I was so sad, and using unhealthy coping methods.

I was always looking outward.

Then along came my most favorite gal, Jen Sincero, to change my everything. ('You Are a Badass'. That's what finally made my brain click, and go, 'Ohhhhh! Duh....!')

How about instead of pointing the finger outward, I began to look inward?

Maybe instead of blaming others for me hating my job, I could've thought about what I actually wanted to do, and, um, did THAT? Ya know, take ownership of my shit?

(Thankfully, I eventually did do this- I just didn't realize it at the time how impactful and important that would be for my life.)

No self-esteem?

That wasn't anyone's fault. It's my job, and my job alone, to be myself, and rock my shit. Toot my own horn. Anything on top of that, from anyone else, is just icing on the cake!

Self-love is what is what improves self-esteem, not compliments.

(Read that again!)

That bad grade? It's not about the teacher. It's about me studying harder, and dealing with hard things. It's acknowledging I won't always be the best at every little thing.

Life will give you shitty things sometimes. It's not about trying to figure out who's fault it is. Or figuring out who's to blame. Or thinking that everything should be fair.

That's just a waste of time.

Instead, look inward. Take ownership. Problem solve. Change your thought process.

Start from a place of loving yourself first, and focus on moving forward yourself. Don't depend on anybody else to do it for you.

Once I decided to stop playing the victim of my life and change my thinking is when I began to move forward. I stopped stagnating in negativity and started thriving in love.

If nothing else, remember this: It's not about them! It's about you! How do you need to change your thinking to feel peace?

You have the power. You control you.

That's it.

That's all.

And that's an extremely powerful tool. (Not to mention: it's suuuuper Luxuriously Dope.)