Boss Mode

Hey guys! Sorry I’ve been M.I.A. lately! I’ve just been busy with....

Just kidding.

Nobody actually cares when anyone takes a social media hiatus. Like, at all. 😂

So anyway, lessss goooo.

Today’s truth bomb?

You Da’ Boss.

We’ve all got a LOT of responsibilities and/or goals in our lives.

We have chosen many of them.

Just a few I’ve personally chosen, in my small corner of the world?

Being married.

Having children.

Having a career.

Being healthy.

The things we don’t realize are also our responsibility? The negative that comes into our lives, with those positive choices.

For example, anyone who’s married knows it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. Like, when my spouse says something so stupid I want to punch him right in his stupid (albeit pretty) little face. It’s probably not my fault he said the idiot thing. But how I handle the situation IS my responsibility. I have the choice to actually punch him in his stupid face. I can ignore him. I can have a super mature conversation about why that is bad. I can leave him. I can pretend it didn’t happen. But regardless, at the end of the day, how I handle the uninvited comment is on me.

Or kids? Daaamn they can fling things at us that we didn’t see coming. Like, fill in the blank. But for example’s sake, let’s say my 6 year old little girl has decided to tell a lie. It’s now on me, as her parent, to handle it. I didn’t ASK her to lie. In fact, the last thing I want to do is have a liar for a kid. But here we are. So I choose to explain the severity of her actions. I choose to have that sit-down conversation. I could also choose to ignore it, overreact, ground her, or take away her birthday. But regardless of the actions taken? It’s still on me.

And my beloved career. This one’s pretty easy, too. I want to do beautiful hair, and be compensated accordingly. In all reality, I’ll have clients who don’t love the result. Or think I’m not worth the price. Or I will simply be overwhelmed with alllll the clients I’m trying to accommodate, while being a good mom, too. And guess what? How I handle all those things? Yep. On me. I didn’t choose them, but I get the responsibility of dealing with them. I could raise my prices. Or cut down my days. Or add days. Or do nothing and bitch and moan. The ball is in my court.

And the last one- being healthy. We all know this isn’t always fun to do. Ideally, we workout, eat right, and drink all the water. We look glowy and pretty and fit, and life is good. (And likely extended!) But real life? It sucks some days. Maybe it’s my crappy knee. Maybe my friend brought over wine. Or cake. Or my alarm didn’t go off. All of those scenarios I wouldn’t CHOOSE for my fit journey. (The wine for a good time? Absolutely! But not necessarily for my mom pooch...) But I get the responsibility of choosing to modify exercises for my knee. Or just throwing in the towel. Or drinking a glass of wine. Or drinking 6 glasses of the wine. The. Choice. Is. Mine. And I have to make it, even if I didn’t ask to.

So.

Life can be so good. But there’s always, always, always, ALWAYS going to be something that will throw those plans or goals in your head off. And it can be (in fact it usually is) something that you really don’t want to have to deal with.

But instead of going into victim mode, and POOR ME.... my life is so hard..... realize that you just gotta DO the damn thing.

Use all the resources, friends, and advice you need to come up with the best solution for YOU, do it, and move on.

We have to start accepting that we are going to be responsible for things we don’t necessarily want to be responsible for. But when we do go from victim mode to acceptance mode, we will realize we have the power to navigate our lives in any direction.

You da’ boss.

And boss mode is Luxuriously Dope. 🖤