Dirty Laundry

If I asked to come into your house, right now, as is... What would you say?

Anybody who knows me at all knows how I’d respond.

‘Uhhhh.... sure, but not past the entryway!’

Or, depending on who you are, you may not even make it that far.

Our homes are as different and individual as all of us.

The way people keep them up is different.

My house’s level of ‘clean’ is entirely subjective. I’ve felt like it was a disgusting mess when comparing to some. And I’ve felt like I’d be proud to get the white glove out when compared to other houses I’ve entered.

Another factor in a home’s cleanliness is where the focus is placed. Is it on the entire home? Certain parts? Only the parts guests see? None of it?

All of those factors come into play when we are talking home cleanliness.

Now, you’re probably thoroughly confused at this point in the blog- like, cool. Are we learning the best cleaning methods here, Brit, or what?

(Again, totally LAUGHABLE. You would not EVER get actual cleaning tips from me... I’ll kindly redirect you to Pinterest. Or a couple of my friends. You know who you are. 😂)

The point is this: People are like houses.

The way we are seen is subjective- we could seem nice to some, but bitchy to others. Depends on who you ask. None of it is necessarily the truth.

We all focus on different messes within ourselves. Some focus on just the entryway that people see: They appear to have their shit together, and that’s all that matters.

Some try to have all their shit cleaned up and perfect all the time. Zero problems or worries ever. They sometimes miss out on things, because they are so focused on that constant perfectionism.

Some are ok with a mess, or just don’t have the energy or know-how to clean it up. They know they have issues, but don’t know what to do to help themselves. They might be depressed, anxious, or overwhelmed.

And some just shove it into a room and close the door- outta sight, outta mind. They push their problems away, and do fun, maybe addictive things, that distracts from having to open the door and see the hidden mess.

All of this to say?

You can’t necessarily judge a home by what you see. It’s a whole house, with rooms you’ll never see.

In the same way, you have no idea what messes a person is dealing with internally, how they’re dealing, or where they‘re hiding shit- regardless of appearances. And you definitely can’t determine anything based on your completely subjective perspective when comparing it your own house, literal or metaphorical.

So just mayyyybeeee we could keep this in mind, and just be kind humans.

Because regardless of the detergent used, or how often we wash it, we ALL have dirty laundry somewhere in our home.

**Bonus tip- offering to help someone who is drowning in laundry, (I.e. struggling) is also cool.

And being cool is Luxuriously Dope. 🖤