The Company We Keep

Remember growing up, when our parents would always drill into our heads the importance of the quality of the people around you?

Your friends could make or break you AND your reputation.

As we got older, we probably entered into friendships with many types of people, for many reasons. Some were probably good, and others, not so much. 

But we learned.

Have you ever thought of the company you keep now?

While maybe our concern isn’t so much our reputation now, or whether or not they’ll peer pressure us, they do affect us.

I’ve learned that most people fall into 3 groups when it comes to friends and acquaintances:

The cheerleaders, the unbothered, and the Karen’s.

Let’s say you post something on social media, simply because it made you feel good and you wanted to. 

Here’s how the above mentioned groups might respond…

Cheerleaders: Comments 🔥🔥🔥 under said post; Offers to let you borrow her new dress for your next post; Thanks you for your insight when you see her in public, because one of your posts really resonated with her.

Unbothered: They see the photo, and may or may not take the time to read the caption. They know they’ve seen similar posts, and the content isn’t necessarily their cup of tea, but it doesn’t trigger them. They might hit the ‘’like’ button, or scroll on by. But they are indifferent to it, and won’t mention it when they see you again.

Karen’s: As expected, these are the trolls who bring you down. They might ask, ‘Why do you post stuff like this? You’re a married woman. You should be posting pics of your family, like everyone else does. That’s weird.’ She won’t like or comment on your pic, but will be the first to run your name through the mud in public, because of said post. They care so much what other people think that they can’t imagine associating with you in public, based simply on that content. (Or they secretly wish they could be brave enough to do or post whatever THEY want, but for some reason can’t. But that’s a different post I’m sure I’ve covered already.)

Getchu some cheerleaders. 

Hell, even the unbothered ones are pretty cool. I like the chill, nonjudgmental vibe.

And the Karen’s? Cut. Them. Off. They don’t want the best for you, regardless of what they are telling you. And whatever you’re triggering in them isn’t your burden.

The sooner you start surrounding yourself with people who think you’re a rockstar (or at the very least, don’t try to shame you for your life choices), the sooner you will start to behave like the rock star you truly are. 

And I can only imagine that being a rockstar would be pretty Luxuriously Dope. 🖤