This is 41

I turned 41 this week.

Here are my takeaways. Because of course I would.

1.) Life is still good- even when I factor in the bad.

2.) My kids are still my most cherished thing, but I’m slowly learning that they’re not ‘mine’. They are their own people. They’re here for now, and the goal is to prepare them to live their best, most successful life after me. And that’s hard for a control freak to comprehend.

3.) Yes, I’m still a control freak. But like, a type B or C one.

4.) Astrology? Yes, please.

5.) Boundaries will always be hard for me to set, and I’ll never be great at standing up for myself. But I’m getting really freaking good at taking one situation at a time and figuring out what is authentic and right for me, and not just responding on autopilot so my anxiety goes away. (Thank you, therapy!)

6.) Impromptu tattoos on your Monday birthday- simply because it will make you happy? Highly recommend.

7.) I still don’t know what I want to do when I grow up.

8.) People still scare me.

9.) I still love dressing up and getting cute for me, and me alone. It was, and always will be, a confidence boost. And that return on investment is beyond worth it.

10.) My siblings and family are still super close, and I’m so proud of that. And them.

11.) I’m still a feminist.

12.) I still don’t get enough protein, don’t drink enough water, and I scroll social media too much.

13.) I’m a hard sell, but once I let you in, I’m fiercely loyal. And that’s one of my biggest flexes.

14.) If I could, would I change anything in my 41 years? You’re expecting the ‘No, of course not! All of my experiences made me who I am!’ But let’s be real- Yes tf I would.

15.) Emotional rap still tops my playlist.

16.) Life is different than when I started this blog, but it’s still Luxuriously Dope. 🖤